The Art of Pursuing

By: Senior Katie Schwanke, Journalism editor

I’ve often heard that chivalry is dead. Is it really... or is it just out of practice? Love story after cheesy love story where the guy gets the girl have distorted how to truly be a “ladies man.” Now when I say ladies man that term is used loosely. I’m not encouraging gross, chauvinist, “filled with swag” pick-up lines, to develop a true ladies man mentality you need to take a step back and be transported to the forgotten world of pursuing.

Asking a girl out is easier said than done. The act usually leads to sweaty palms and shaky, nervous, incohesive sentences that end the asker in the same position he began with, dateless. So fellas, here is an inside view on what girls really want.

1. Girls want to feel special so do not i repeat DO NOT ask her out over social media. This will make you seem like a uninterested typical male who will spend more time on the new Battlefield 4 video game than making an effort to ask said girl out.

2. Go out of your way, prior to the official ask out, to show the girl you care about her. Opening the door, giving her a compliment, being invested when she talks to you, make time outside of where you usually see her to talk to her. These things might seem simple but they will make a difference TRUST ME!

3. Care about what you do. The new fad these days is to be as disinterested as possible, but if you’re not passionate about what you do then how are you going to be passionate about a relationship.

4. Remember, asking a girl out is a processes, so don’t just one day be like, “man she’s FINE, I want to date dat” and talk to that special girl for the first time about how you should date. Form a friendship first. If you just ask her out you’re more than likely just going to end up freaking her out.

5. Be a gentlemen. Don’t talk like you would with your guy friends. She’s special so talk to her like she is.

6. Be confident without coming off as cocky. Go out of your comfort zone and own it, she will notice!

Each girl is different, so these tips may not work for everyone, but if you keep these few rules in mind you’ll find yourself with a girl on your arm and a relationship in your future.